Hello everyone,
Let me first tell everyone of you a big "Thank You!" I have learned so much from this website it is just unreal. Even though I just have an XL she has never, never let me down thanks to you guys (and gals) I have looked at the Dodge, Chebbie, Nissan, and Toy websites...and let me tell you first of all they arent half as helpful and knowledgeable as all of you...which made me buy her anyways. Ok now that the butt-kissings is over I have a question...(maybe military guys cab answer best of all if you had the choice) Ok I myself am in the "IT" field, I got a dream job, but no family is allowed (Have a wife 1 1/2 year old daughter and 2 month old son") It is killing me inside not to benear them but this is such a secure futurefor them. I need some opinions...Please. Once again I thank EVVERYONE for their help,from the clogged EGR ports to the "transmission thunk" I thank you
Tim Thornhill

 

And your question is . . . . ?????

 

Uhhh, welcome, but run that by me again???

Adrianspeeder

 

welcome

are you "post care aware?"

well just beware of the antics around here

if your not ready the rollercoaster is on full tilt

hang on tight

this one gets upsidedown real quick

so dont fall out

enjoy!

...zap!

 

ok the question is: Say you got a dream job but you had to leave your family behind, see them maybe once a month. Would you take the take the job or say its not worth it...especially living in Phoenix. Leaving your wife at home alone with 2 kids.

 

You have to set your priorities, I work in the oilfield and am gone all of the time. I am currently engaged, but with no kids, so its not that bad being gone. I grew up without having a father or even a father figure in my life, so I told myself once I started having kids, I will always be there for them. Everyone sets there priorities up different and for different reasons, just do whats most important to you cause you wont be able to do it again. Good luck.

 

DANG IT ZAP BEAT ME AGAIN!

But what he said...

For the question I'd say make sure your prioities are in check. You can't pay me enough to be away from my wife and kids. If I can't take them with me then I'd rather flip burgers if I had too.

 

I dont have a family at this point in my life but when I do, they will always take priority over work.

 

pss...

you need work on your reaction times



...zap!

 

You mentioned that this is a "secure future for them". What does that mean? That they'll be well taken care of? That is a good thing yes, but does that mean you're going to miss out on the first 5-10 years of your kids' lives? I wouldn't trade seeing my son every day for a "dream job" but that's just me. Although I don't have it in me to be a stay-at-home-mom, it is very important to me, that I am with him as much as possible. He changes by leaps & bounds every day and he's 3 1/2. You're missing out on this stuff. You're not going to be able to look back, when you and your wife have grandchildren and say "Remember when Tommy did that as a baby?" cuz you weren't there.

JMO

 

When i joined the Army, I was single and unattatched. I didn't have a care in the world. The Army could send me anywhere. Now that I'm married and have a yung'un on the way, I count every day that I get to remain home with my family as a blessing and will no be re-enlisting. The point is, I thought I had my dream job, until I realized on what I could be missing, and I don't want to miss it anymore than I have to.

 

I just got back from a party, so pardon me if my words are typed as one big run on word or anything. He77 it might improve my typing. Anyway while at this party we got into a discuasion about this "sorta". A lady is looking for a job so we got ot talking about jobs. One of the places that was mentioned was one of my old employers so I told about how I use to work 60-80 hours a week! So we started disussing the pros and cons of staying at home, a decent 40 hour week job and teh extreme jobs like that. One guy shared that he use to work 2 jobs, was involved in almost all of the local social clubs, several fishing clubs and tournament fished once or twice a week. The way he managed his time to do all of this was he would sit down and make a schedule for the month to see what he could participate in. One day while he was making his schedule out his little boy walked up looked at the schedule and said "Daddy.... can you schedule me in?"
He said that tore his heart out. It would have felt better if someone would have hit him upside the head with an aluminum baseball bat. So he closed his calander resigned from all of his social positions and from all of his clubs, quit one job and has never regreted any of it.

Moral of the story:
You dont know what you got until it's gone. Kids only grow older you can't get that time back ever again.