What a crappy Christmas season. There's a very good chance my girlfriend is not going to graduate college this semester because she's in a class that's screwing her over. She has a group project in which her group is outcasting her. They won't let her participate and then complain that she isn't doing anything. Then on top of that, the professor is treating her like crap because his roommate hates my girlfriend for reasons beyond her control. So she's getting screwed over by just about everyone and as a result is probably going to fail her class. We can't afford another semester.

 

That sucks man, but you cant give up on it yet. She can make this happen if she talks to the group and the prof I am sure. A whole semester for one class would suck.

 

Not to be harsh, but that's a pretty weak story. It's like my 'man is holding me down' outcries.

Tell her to get her **** in gear and make things happen. Screw the proff, his feelings about her are totally irrelivant. He grades the papers. If he's screwing her when her work is correct, then she has to go to the dean. Period. Hell, I hate everyone and odds are many teachers of the past hated me but I pulled out great grades and top-notch work. Feelings are for losers and drop-outs. Winners don't get personal and whine about people not liking them. You only have to be liked by your clients when your a salespuke.

As for the group. Same thing applies. Get in there, no cop-out "they don't like me" crap. Stalk them, hunt them down like dogs and put your two cents into the project. THey may hate her, but who gives a rats **** about some college losers?

 

She has been living this nightmare for a couple weeks. She has tried everything; I've been coaching her. She even got an advisor or someone involved but the prof just fed the advisor a bunch of lies. They say her stuff is incorrect, sucks, or whatnot but will not tell her why. As a result, she can't do anything to 'fix' it. I dont think it needs fixed anyway. I always tell her that people are not out to get her but that's really the way it is right now.

Edit: She's done all that Dzerve it. Sometimes no matter what you do, you can't win.

 

Who's saying her stuff is crap? The Proff? Take it to another one! She should be working to prove her stuff is correct (assuming it really is) and destroying that f*ckstick of a proff then. Go to the matresses!!!

 

fwiw, maybe take it right to the schoolz prez. A well written letter "next day aired", personally, to the prez. usually gets attention. This sounds like one of those situations where the logic of, "The squeaky wheel gets the grease..." applies...

 

Got to agree with the Big D.

In the words of Rowdy Roddy Piper "I am here to kick a$$ and chew bubblegum and I'm all out of bubblegum"

She will have to do the same

 

Thanks dzervit. I am just so frustrated at this point. My thought process has always been similar to yours, I'm just at the end of my rope. She's been fighting so hard and I don't know what to tell her anymore. We'll keep fighting but it's hard to know how hard to push. There comes a point where you push too had and just make things worse. Thanks for listening, I just needed to rant.

 

You could always wait for the guy in the parking lot one night and make him an offer he can't refuse. Actually, as much as it sucks, sometimes the best way to deal with a-hole power trip profs like that is to butter them up about how great they are and crap like that. Stuffed shirt jerks like that respond well to flattery of their huge intellectual egos. It sucks but maybe the best way to go about it to swallow any pride and say to the guy "what do I have to do to pass this class?". She can always lay it out on the line, you know I have just one more semester, can't afford another one... Good luck to both you and the g/f, I hope she passes and I hope you don't have to rough him up.

If he continues to jerk her around I agree that you need to go way over his head and accuse him of being biased towards your g/f. Thats not something he wants the Dean or President even asking him about.

 

Any other Architects here? I can't believe the way things are run in her college. University of Colorado, Architecture. Most the professors over there are freakin lame. Most are only part time professors, who haven't a clue how to teach, and look like they were found at the local salvation army. They're certainly nothing like the profs I had in the business school there.

 

I'm sorry to hear about the problems your g/f is having in school. I have to agree that she needs to start speaking out to whoever will listen and if they won't listen, talk louder. A letter or 2 to the powers that be probably wouldn't hurt either. It sounds like you really have nothing to loose by trying. I'd even consider writing to the University of Colorado board of trustees. As Beanhead says "The squeaky wheel gets the grease..." And that is usually the case, so squeak away and see where it gets you.

 

Also sometimes the greasy wheel that keeps squeaking gets replaced. If i were her i would begin some serious *** whipping after class. take out an ad in the college news paper call them out all them a-holes...