Whoa, whoa! Beep beep beep, back up the employment truck!!

Coming home from work tonight, my dad said "we need to talk about the job at the Ford place." So I'm either like, oh ***** or, cool, it must be something good. Well. It wasn't so good.

My dad said that he and my mom agree strongly about not wanting me to work there. My dad said "We'll support you on your decisions in life, but this we can't support you on. It's too risky and dangerous for a girl like you to be working in a place like that." He went on to state, in a nutshell... "I have arrested people in those places, who are aliens, and they usually are bad news, and might do something to harm you or make you feel uncomfortable." I said, "You're saying that because you don't know. You're stereotyping." Then he said he wasn't. As far as I know, all the people I have come in contact at that dealership are decent, classy people. They seemed to like me when I showed up for their 2004 F150 Kickoff; me and my dad were like the only ones there, and I was sportin' my Ford shirt, and got a few compliments off of that. Yeah, well I feel very strongly about Ford and doing what I like versus working somewhere where I disliked the job and wished I had another job. I'm a firm believer in doing what you love- regardless. I'd rather get paid less and enjoy the work, than get paid higher and not take any liking to it.

You see, my parents were for me quitting my job at the coffee shop. They, too, didn't like how my boss was dealing with certain situations, and they finally realized that it brought my grades down. Finally, after all these weeks of trying to tell them! My mom even stated, "I think it's time to find another job." So I thought, Great! Now I can fill out that Ford application that has been sitting, crisp as a new dollar bill, in the corner of my room... Well, I filled it all out lastnight, or pretty much, as you know. I mentioned to my mom about it, and my sister as well. Just to let you know, my sister and my mom are practically inseparable. So of course, I get the funny look from my sister, and she basically said, "I don't think girls like you, living where you live (the upper part of town) do that kinda work..." And I said, "Do I care? No." And my mom went on to say, "Fine, if you don't care about the people there, then I don't, either." That was lastnight. It pisses me off how my parents are SO inconsistent in their opinions on things! I just don't know what they want!

I felt very strongly about this job, when my dad gave me the 'You-Can't-Have-That-Job' speech. I thought my parents wanted me to have another job. Maybe they would appreciate it if I told them I was gonna sell my body on the corner for some dough.

You know, what it comes down to, is, that I am a female!! Females get the *****ty end of everything. If I was a male, then it would be NO PROBLEM to work at the Ford dealer.

Sure ruined my good mood tonight, I don't get it. I want to work there, and I still wanna work there. My parents just suck, though. You know... my dad set me up with my present job- and it turned out to be another turd in the toilet. Now he's not contributing to the wishes of his daughter for a job she wants. You'd think that she(me) would know by now, what she wants and what she doesn't, at least among the line of jobs. My dad, himself, admitted to screwing up in getting me my present job. What's he gonna do now, I mean, why won't he just give me a list of jobs that I can have? May as well not even have one ounce of hope, seriously.

 

nah.. Females have teh boobies.. and that other thing!

 

FL

I commend you on looking for a job in the field thats interests you the most While you may not see it/understand it, Iam sure your parents are giving you advice and or directions that they feel are in your best interests.

Now saying that..........
If you truely think you want to be in the field of new cars/trucks, may I suggest you look into a trade school for troubleshooting and become a diagnostican of new vehicles. With that, approach the personal manager at the dealership. Tell him/her your goals, and that you are willing to start at the bottom and learn your way up. Tell them you have no experience, thus no bad habits, and are very willing to learn. Maybe, just maybe, the dealership will take an interest in you, and help you with the schooling to reach your goals.
Just a thought...............

Good Luck in whatever you decide

 

That is what we call that job at the dealer where I work. Our detailer's last day was today. He is moving away. That means they are looking for a replacement. Probably to much of a commute though. You won't have to worry about aliens though. They don't land in Canada. Too cold for the spacecraft.

 

FL, not sure where you live, but I would think a dealer would be a good place to work, most that i have seen are well run businesses. Granted I have never met a car salesman that I liked.
If your dad has arrested aliens there, ask him for what, or some details. I would just think a Ford dealer would be a reasonable job. I would let my daughter work at one, then maybe I could get a discount on stuff.

Sled...

 

"They won't expect an interview from me on the day I turn in the application, will they?"

It happened to me a whole bunch of times. Ive gone to apply for plenty of jobs like that thinking Im gonna drop off the app and scoot out of there. But a few times Id catch the right business at the right time and they're hurting for people and the manager just happens to have a free moment, and so Id end up getting an immediate on the spot interview. So no, it's not unheard of that he may decide to pull you aside to talk to you immediately. Which is why you should make sure you look your best and are ready for anything even just when walking in to drop off the application. Alot of younger kids who'd come to apply for jobs where I worked came in thugged out street gear and I couldn't figure out why to save my life. Even if you're just going in to drop the thing off, assume that they're looking to see how you present yourself and be prepared to interract with a manager.

 

Thanks. I wish my parents saw things the same way you did, because you seem like a great dad

My dad has not arrested aliens at THAT specific dealer, no. Actually, I'm not sure where he has done it, but for sure he is stereotyping.

I'm in Georgia...

I just don't understand why my parents think my wanting to work at a dealer is "irrational."

It's making me really upset, and my parents are oblivious to my hurting. Well, they didn't say I couldn't work there; just that they didn't want me to. It really frustrates me, though. Think of all those unclean Fords...

 

Then I would just show up there tomorrow morning bright and early with you bucket and mit and go to work. When they come out and say WTF you can explain your frustrations. Maybe they will feel sorry for you or see your determination and hire you.
As far as parents go, I am sure my kids have most of the same complaints as you, just for different reasons. I always tell them I am your dad first, friend second.
If nun of this works I still need some help with my deck business, ya have to be able to handle a 4x6x8 post by yourself though.

Sled...

 

Sorry, Dad gets the last word on this.
If he says 'no' then it's 'no'.
I don't think anyone here is going to go against your fathers' wishes, considering your age.

That is life.
I have a 24 year old daughter and a 15 year old daughter.
The older did what she wanted when she was 18 and now actually asks for my advice, sometimes.

My 15 year old is aging me. Pulling at the leash, wanting to grow up too fast.

If I told her 'no' and she went to her internet buddies and they said it should be 'yes', I would pull the computer plug unless I could just find them and beat the crap out of them.