I remeber a story my old squad leader told me. When he was with the Marines he got back from deployment and was thinking he was going to "get some". Two nights later, his wife was holding out on him so he rolled over and asked her what was up. She said, "If I have sex with you, I'd be cheating on my boy friend."

My drill sgt also told me, never ever come home soon and suprise your loved ones. If you get off/released or sent home early always call and let them know, because its better not to know sometimes.

Ouch.

31C

 

ouch, that sucks big time

 

yes yes, the master plan is in work *evil laugh*

 

You are not alone. I was a week short of returning from a six month deployment to the desert and my wife, bless her heart, sent me an electronic Dear John letter (e-mail) saying "Don't come home". When I got home I spent the next week sleeping on the couch, trying to find somewhere else to live. The biatch led me on for the whole six months, sending me letters of encouragement, all the while knowing she was DUMPING my a$$ when I got home. Yes, life is a wonderful place. Silly thing is, she's military also. Bummer is. I have to work with her professionally almost weekly. Who NEEDS to put up with this crap! On the positive side - I know life goes on. This is just a small speedbump on the highway of existance. Yeah, I'm still pissed.

 

Same thing goes for over the road truck drivers. I've done both, and the odds are definately against you if you are married or dating seriously. Even choosey women have plenty of opportunities to run around if they want to. If you aren't there taking care of their needs, they're gonna want to.

I've taken to bachelor life very well over the last decade. I'm not going back to relationship hell again.

 

LGJ, if you made up that fast, then you weren't really broken up. Only you know why she dumped you in the first place, and you have to decide if you think she had a valid reason, and if you think she will do it again in the future.
I have been dumped twice, and both of them wanted me back (still do) but I didn't care for their reason(s) and told them if you thought leaving was your only option, then staying gone is now your only option.


To you guys that think it is acceptable to screw around on your mate (or vice versa): BS!
There are people out there that have morals and convictions (not just felonys either) and you just chose a weak person for a mate. I would come home early, and with out warning. If I caught them, I would be glad because that would save me from future 'descrepancies'. Once a cheater (and liar) always a cheater (and liar) You want a liar (for the record: cheaters are liars) for a best friend? Not me.

 

And Then Some,
Outstanding words! A person shouldn't have to worry about "unexpected returns" and the results of same on their relationships. I've been dumped twice, both marriages, both unexpectedly. It seems that these days marriage vows should also include "until you don't wanna" along with "until death do you part". I've learned a lot these last 14 years, comes along with the of two divorces. It's good to see that old-fashioned morals aren't dead with the times.

 

ATST,

Nobody said that it was OK to cheat. I never have. I heard a comedian say one time, can't remember who anymore, that there are usually 2 kinds of people in a relationship. The user and the usee. He went on to say, "If you don't agree with this, guess which one you are." I know this isn't true of every relationship; but, from my experiences and those I have witnessed from the outside over the years, this is true much more often than not. Sad but true. Cheaters aren't just liars, they are users and manipulators as well.