Ok you all know I got this new BIG Beautiful Beast of a Truck right? Well, if you are reading this, you do now. My friends are all happy for me cuz they know what I've been through all summer, and what it took to get this Truck.
Some brats torched my garage and part of the house back in May, and while waiting for the insurance money, I rebuilt a lot of it myself. I cashed out on the garage, and used that money to hire roofers to completely rebuild the entire roof. Everything else I did myself and the materials came out of my pockets, which by the way, being a single parent, aren't deep ones.
I still don't even have windows in my house, and it was quite a delema over whether or not I should pay the balance on them to have them installed, or use what remaining money I had in the bank to buy a new Truck. My lease was up, and I was running out of choices. I negotiated a nice deal on my dream Truck which had to be a 4x4 because I want to move up north in a year. I also had to deal with the credit unions HUGE messup where they reported I was delinquent on my old truck every month for the past year! The credit department wouldn't admit their mistake on paper, but I was able to trick the service personel into giving me enough documentation, in bits and pieces, which when combined, clearly out lined they where at fault. The sales person had to go to bat for me (with all my docs) with Ford Motor Credit, and I finally got my truck the day before all the delicious rebates expired.
I am pretty damn happy, no estatic that I finally got this Truck. It is truly awesome! Makes me glad I still don't have windows, even though it is getting cold out. Don't worry though, I got the insurance check weeks ago, and am currently fighting with the mortage company to endorse it so I can get the rest of the work done.
I never had a 4x4 before because I never needed it. I also never had a CD player in a vehical before because Ford didn't design for that back in 98. In fact this Truck has many features I never had before, and I have to laugh at myself for marvelling over it all.
Here are a few of my 'stupid' stories:
When I got home, I left it running, and ran in the house to get CD's. I started playing a chorus of never before played stuff like Linkin Park really loud. I pushed the door lock button, to go back in the house an get more stuff and the lock button went back up. I looked over at my daughter and said "Cut it out" then pushed the lock button on the doors' control panel again. The lock unlocked again. "Damn it, leave the buttoms alone!" Locked it again while watching my daughter play her GameBoy, and sure enough it unlocked again. DUH! Appearently Ford won't let you lock yourself out of the Truck. You have to get out, then use the keyless button on the keychain to lock it.

The mirrors looked like they would push in. I tried to push them in, but they wouldn't go. I even read the invoice and saw it said they were telescoping, then read the manual for special instructions and everything. Finally I thought they may be stuck so I thought if I pulled them out a bit, I could then push them the rest of the way in. I pulled, and pulled and they just kept comming out more and more til I realised they had already been pushed in all the way to begin with!

This morning my daughter wanted to go to work with me. I got her a CD and she played the same song over and over and over. When we got to one stop she wanted to get out with me, she pushed the eject button, we got out, and I pushed the keyless locking button. When we got back in, we couldn't find the CD. Looked on the floor and everything. Finally I said to hit the eject button, and out it popped. Then I hit the lock button, and sure enough it sucked back in!

Now I think these stories are funny, but my BF who claims he is NOT jealous, appearently thinks I am "boasting" even though he already has a 4x4 and the exact same radio in his Truck, which he won't let anyone touch.
This morning he called me, and asked why I wasn't done yet. I told him we were out playing, and had driven over a couple curbs. Mind you he has done this lots of times, and I couldn't before. He said "Well I never boasted as much as you . . . " and I just hung up on him because I think he is jealous, and I won't allow someone to be rude to me.
He had been driving me around while I got my old truck fixed so I could turn it in, (fuel pump went one day before lease was up) and working on his van to let me use till I got something to drive. It turned out I only needed his van for one day.
The day I got it I went to his house to give him a ride, and he acted like he didn't want to go, but he went. He has been acting funny ever since. He did say now that I got a new truck I don't need him anymore. I replyed the Truck only hugs my ***, and the rest of me still needs him.
Maybe he just knows I am that much closer to moving up north now. He hasn't helped me work on the house at all. I did everything almost completely by myself. My son hold some boards for me while I screwed them in. My daughter also crawled under the porch and helped run wires for me. I worked past the point where all the skin came off my thumb where it rubbed on the hand drill on several occasions.

So do you people think I am boasting when I tell my 'stupid' stories, or is he just jealous? Do other people accuse you of boasting when you get a new Truck?

 

Here's my opinion, worth every penny you paid for it.

Your boyfriend is an immature, egocentric, chauvinistic, A-Hole who likes his women subjugated. Your demonstated ability to be an independent, successful woman offends him and threatens his masculinity.

Here's my advice, also worth every penny you paid for it.

Run, do not walk, do not pass Go, do not collect $200. Run hard, run fast, run silent, run deep. Get to the UP as fast as you can. Leave this insensitive jerk immediately. Build yourself a new life, and hold out until you meet a man who appreciates you as the extraordinary woman you obviously are.

 

let him go.

runnet

 

Yeah he's jealous. You're doing so much on his own & damaging his ego (not your fault). You have every right to be proud of your new truck because you got it yourself. Thats how I felt when I bought my first vehicle (a used Ranger) & I felt just about as good when I got my dream truck last year (good god has it been a year already). I love every minute with the Wood & am glad for the choices I've made to get it (as I'm sure you are with yours).

Hats off to you for your hard work & dedication to improve your life (for youself, not for him). Come on out to Stanton on Saturday & show your truck off (MiLOC has the track rented for our second annual MI Performace Challange). Maybe you'll find some mods in our mini-swap meet.

 

I agree with the rest of the team.
Tell him to either grow up or ship out.

Good luck with the new truck and the move.

 

Nope, not at all. You are not boasting you are simple excited about something new and something you did ALL ON YOUR OWN. I as the rest are extremely proud of you.

I personally think boasting is when someone is making comments and acting like theirs (what ever it may be) is better then someone else’s. For what ever reason, for example if you were telling him “well my truck can do this and yours can’t” ect then that would be considered boasting, at least to me.

You haven’t done that, you simple shared some funny times or time you have had with your truck. It really sucks when someone has to worry about telling another person something because that other CHILDISH asswipe may get his emotions hurt.

My advice, buy him 1 box of Kleenex and a bottle of Prozac and tell him to get over it…

Congrats on your new truck, and feel free to share any story about your truck here, with real friends that would love to hear about them…

 

First of all, congrats on your new truck, you have every right to be proud, I'm happy for you, especially since all the crap you been through lately.

My sentiments about your bf will echo what everyone else has said.
Lose the immature jerk you call a boyfriend, and find yourself a man who appreciates you, not someone who is hung up on his own inadequacies.

Life's too short, I find the older I get, the less patience I have for BS.
Be true to your self and don't settle.

Makes me glad I still don't have windows, even though it is getting cold out.

HAHAHA, that's frikkin hilarious!
Lookit, Raoul sleeps in a box under an overpass, he doesn't have real windows either, if he can survive, so can you.
If things get really bad, I will fed ex you a pair of old work gloves with the fingers cut out of them

 

Did I mention I own three shirts and all of them are short sleeve?

 

the guy is a bum. Drop him.

You have proved that you don't need him and he can't deal with that.

You have yourself in a great position now. You have dropped the baggage you were dealt earlier (no need to re-hash the bad memories) and you ended up on your feet.

So here you are as a single Mom and doing it yourself. The last thing in the world you need is a jealous, control-freak, domineering guy to screw that up.

Steve Miller said it best "take the money and run"

 

He's plain jealous (and then some too) let him go.

 

I agree with everyone else...if he's gonna get his undies in a bunch over that then he isnt worth it. Talk to him and give him a chance but dont let him wiggle out of it either.

I dont think you were being boa****l at all...just happy and excited over your new toy like all of us get.

So have you done any mods to the new truck yet?

I know one mod that would look real good on the new rig. An American Flag see-thru rear window graphic. You were interested in that one that I had to sell, I emailed you back with a price but I never heard back from you. Just wondering if you are still interested. $60 can bring it to your door.

 

First off ATST - sorry! I had no idea you were getting a new truck! I've been on another planet recently & have just returned to Earth so I missed the annoucement. Damn I have to stay put I guess! LOL!
CONGRATULATIONS!!!! WTG!!! LET'S GO OFF ROADING TOGETHER!!! LOL!
Okay - I agree with everyone else - you're NOT boasting! I boast all the time when I tell people how I have pulled out 2 Chevy's from the mud - so far! I'm SURE there will be more! See? THAT'S boasting!
When I say how much I love my truck - how I find it rides as comfortably as any car I've been in or how I love my CD player or the way he handles snow that is stating a fact - plain & simple.
Did you notice how ALL the guys here told you to dump your b/f? I find that interesting! Shows these guys are NOT chauvinistic! I'm proud of them!
I don't know if you want to dump your b/f but I do know this - ignore him & tell others who appreciate you & are happy for your good fortune all about the new truck. He'll either come around or he'll move on all by himself.
As far as your being a capable woman I look to YOU as a role model! I am serious! I truly admire all you accomplish & how you never let something stop you or deter you from what you need/want to do. I think you're incredibly smart & self sufficient & that is a GOOD thing.
My hat & Fearless's tonneau are off to you! Now - when will we see pics of your new baby? LOL!

 

Ya know I was just thinking about that today! I was waiting until I was sure I was getting the truck. I kept thinking I would find out any day now . . .
Sure I am still interested, if you can give me a couple of weeks. and by that I mean if you still have it when I have the money.

You guys got the short version of everything. Don't read the rest unless you want the long version of the credit union fiasco!
The credit union made my ex cosign for me when I got the last truck. He had talked me into quitting one of my jobs and I didn't make enough money on paper even though I have 85% equity in my home. Looking back, I should have stuck to my guns on that. All the payments were auto deducted from my old (before we were married) personal checking account. When we got devorced, I wanted to close our joint account, but they wouldn't let us because the truck loan was attached to that account, and it turned out my EX was the primary borrower, and I was only a cobuyer. So the account stayed open, but was frozen so nobody could put money in ot take it out. They also wouldn't let me refinance it on my own, or take his name off it. So we just had to wait it out.
One payment (in five years) was late or missed about a year ago, but I never knew because they sent all the delinquent notices to his house. My ex told me he was getting notices, so I went to the bank and asked them if I was, or ever had been late. She said "You are not late now, nor have you ever been late" so I ignored my ex, and after awhile he probably ignored the notices too.
Back in April, I was making a deposit to my account, and she told me I was 60 days late. I said WHAT? Then she said after they take out this payment, it will only be 30 days late. We went round and round till they showed me back in Aug of 2002 there was no payment posted. So basically all subsequent payments were being applied to the previous month. When I asked them why they didn't notify me, they swore they had been sending several notices per month. When I asked what address they had on record, they gave me my ex's, but insisted they had been sending notices to both mine and his address. I bitched about the extra intrest I would owe, and they said if I made that payment, they would reduce it. Then some brats burned down the garage, and I became homeless for a few months. I thought the worst thing that could happen was the extra intrest. Nope. Even though I wasn't the primary borrower, and they weren't sending me notices or statements, they did report 2 delinquencies per month since august of 2002 on my TRW! They wouldn't put in writing that they never sent me anything, but I managed to go to different branches, and play dumb getting them to put certain other facts in writing. For instance, they wouldn't give me a payment history report, but they did give me 2 years of bank statements with the payments listed on them. Of course my address wasn't on these statements, my ex's was. I got other douments this way too. I was starting to run out of branches to go to and play dumb. Collectively they added up to the credit union being at fault, and their reporting system deeply errored.

Mind you I didn't even know they reported it until the Ford guy asked me if I knew of someone who would cosign for me. I about blew up at him. I said "Look I am NOT going through that again! and besides I am a grown up. Who is going to cosign for me at my age when all my friends are cosigning for their own kids to get cars? Nope, I won't do it!" The he wanted me to lease the truck, and I was again adement that I make a regular purchase like normal people do.
He also tried to talk me into a lesser Truck, but I want what I want!
I did tell him that I would do two things: Get enough proof that I made every payment, and put whatever money down they wanted. I had originally offered 5k. All he had to do was get Ford credit to actually look at the documents, and ask them what exactly they would feel secure with for a down payment.
Well 6 weeks, a huge chunk of change, plus one income tax refund, (I hadn't filed for my 2002 yet) and one camper sold on ebay later, I got it.
Kudos to Anthony who stuck with me on a truck he didn't even have on his lot, that he gave Xplan to, plus argued with Ford Credit ect. I should buy that guy a beer, but I am broke!

 

Any woman that would make a decision to live in a house in Mich. without windows in Sept. so she could buy a new truck gets my vote for anything she wants to do. Throw the BF out, keep him, it doesn't matter. You're in control, never let him forget it! You've got my respect and attention, and I ain't living near you, I can imagine he's shakin' in his boots.

Keep on truckin' ATST!!!!!

 

Wow, what responses!
HELL YEAH I damn happy! I got what I wanted, and did it the way I wanted to. Maybe I should be boasting!

My BF knows what I can do when I set my mind to it. He got himself into a bad land contract deal years ago. When he noticed something wasn't right, I stepped in, saved it from forclosure, and got his house paid off for him and now he owns it free and clear. A lawyer wanted $2,500 just to look at the case, and I did it for free. So he can't say he hasn't benefitted from my tenacity.

We have talked about him moving too, but not with me. He can move up there and live nearby if he wants. I won't live with someone I am not married to, and I won't marry again till my kids are grown. I know he has issues to clear up, and I have been keeping my distance knowing this relationship probably won't work. He suffers from anxiety and won't go to counseling or seek medical help.
So yeah it will be dumpsville for him soon. I just wanted to make sure I wasn't being unreasonable.