Just 11 months ago to the date i posted the loss of my dad and today i post my mom's passing. I am truly broken hearted once again. My Mom was ill for some time and was on a ventilater to keep her alive. I Made the hardest decision i have ever had to make in my life and removed the vent and let her go to my Dad. Her kidneys had failed along with heart failure and other complications (diabetic). I hope i made the right decision and also hope not one of you ever have to make the same. I will miss my Mom dearly and hope the decision i made was the best one for her. Please pardon my spelling my mind is not with me today...

May she rest in peace,

 

My condolences.

It may not feel like it but IMO you did, I for one would never want rely on a ventilator to live. Just remember, she is in a better place now

 

Sorry to hear of your loss and heavy heart. For what its worth I believe you made the right decision. The quality of life was gone.

The reason I can make such a statment, is that I lost my mother when I was 17 and my father when I was 19. Both due to cancer, both smoked like there was no end.

I watched both of them suffer to no end. While it was heartbreaking, I know they are both in a better place and the pain and suffering has stopped.
They say time heals, but 25 yrs later, I got tears in my eyes typing this

God Bless
Bruce

 

Bro I'm really sorry, I've lost my grandparents and that was very very hard on me, so I can't imagine what its like for you loosing your parents. especially the way you did.

My condolences.

 

My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours at this time my friend. You did the right thing. I had to bury my both my parents and my sister before I was 30 years old. The one thing that sustained me during those times was the fact that the person suffering before me deserved better than to be hooked to some machine. They gave you life, helped you grow, and sustained you when you needed it. You eased their pain, lifted their burden, and helped them leave this place peacefully.

"Come unto me, all ye that labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest." Matthew 11:28

 

Buck,

Our condolences to you and your family on the loss.

You Definately did the right thing by your mom IMO. I have made it very clear to my family that I DO NOT want to be on any support if there is no chance of a decent recovery or if Im going to have brain damage. I know you're hurting, but you did the right thing.

 

I am sorry for your loss. God Bless.

 

My deepest condolences on your loss. Were I in the same situation, I would like to think that I would make the same decision, rather than being selfish and keeping a loved one around who was obviously past the point where they had any quality of life.

 

My deepest condolences on your loss as well. I too believe you made the right choice for your mother. I do not want to have to be on life support unless there is a good chance of recovery, otherwise I have told my daughter, no matter how hard it may be for her to do it, to please do so to show her love for me in carrying out my last wish and to know I would love her as much and would want this.

God bless you and your family, and may your mother rest in peace knowing she had a son who loved her enough to make a very hard choice that she would have wanted. Your mother loves you very much as is very proud of you for making a very tough decission, in her time of crisis and your deep emotions of love for her and what was best for her.

 

Don't question yourself, ask if she would have wanted to have to live on a machine. I believe you did the right thing. May God bless you. My prayers are with you guy.

Anthony

 

hey sorry to hear about your mom. I had an aunt die of a sudden stroke and an uncle die of sudden cancer, both were in great health. My condolences.
-Pat

 

I am so sorry buckdropper - I will pray for both your Mom & Dad & most of all, you.
My Dad died of cancer 11/19/00. Right up until the day he died we were going to have him coded when that time came - it had been his wish.
Just 1 day before he died, we learned how far the cancer had spread - it was thru his spine & liver. This all began just 4 mos earlier in his lung (he quit smoking 18 YEARS before this - doc said it was not a smoker's tumor) & they thought it was a slow growing tumor.
At any rate, the day he died, he'd been in a drug induced coma. He never knew how far the cancer had spread & how impossible treatment had become. I know what a code entails - it's far from pretty or "heroic" & after a LOT of soul searching, I told my Mom & sister I changed my mind & felt we should let him go. I didn't know they felt the same way - because of my vehement insistence on coding him they were going along with it.
As soon as we agreed that letting him go was best we felt a certain peace knowing it was the best, most loving & least selfish decision we could make. He passed away about 1 hour later - peacefully, with dignity & free from pain.
Had we let him be coded he'd have been on life support, in a coma & tied down. Instead we allowed him to go & to leave behind all his pain, cares & burdens.
I still cry for him & I talk to him ALL the time - he's great at helping me find things! Seriously!
It hurts a lot right now but you will start to feel your Mom's presence & feel how thankful she is that you were not selfish in trying to keep her alive by a machine. Trust me - she's grateful for your brave decision & proud of the man she raised.
If you need to talk call me. I'll email my phone # to you. Dont worry about the time either, ok? If you need to talk, I'm here to liisten anytime at all.
God Bless buckdropper. I'm praying for you. We all are.

 

im sorry for your loss, and yes you made the right choice!

good luck and God bless!

moose

 

Hey Buckdropper-

I am sorry for your loss, and I am in agreement with everyone else that you did the right thing. I'm sure your mom knows, too, that you love her with all your heart. It is very appearent to all.

Please don't doubt that you did the right thing...anyone of us would have done the same if our loved one was in that situation.

much love.

 

I'm sorry to hear about your loss, Buckdropper. I am going to keep you in my prayers.