well, backing up doesnt seem to help any. i backed up after shifting out for about 75 yards with no luck. i have tried just putting into neutral while i was still moving after i had shifted out, but it still stayed in 4wd.
i am very sure it stays in 4wd after i shift out. since it snowed, i tried again this morning. i shifted in 4wd, and i could hear it engage slightly, and it was locked. while driving out the road, which was really slick this morning, i shifted back out, slowed down for about 20 ft, then i gave the truck some gas. i didnt fishtail at all. then i stopped the truck, put her into park, back into drive, and took out. as soon as i touched the gas, it fishtailed right off the bat.